How to Kiss a Girl.

“Kiss me,” she said.

He’d do it, he thought, but not just in the usual way, because her mouth inspired him to kiss her in the way some people make love.

He kissed her like a hummingbird kisses the early morning dew. He kissed her like the ocean kisses a long forgotten shore. He kissed her like the moonlight kisses the dark forest floor.

He kissed her in the lonely places, where she kept abandoned dreams.

He kissed her in the angry places, where life had taken its toll. He kissed her where she’d splintered and cracked and fallen weeping to the floor.

He kissed her softly to the sanguine beat of her jaggedly broken heart. He kissed her with a wicked heat, setting her on fire. He kissed her slowly. He kissed her hard.

He brought forth the moans that rarely left her mouth. He kissed her, leaving spaces where she needed to draw breath. He kissed her where the embers of her soul fire burned.

Awakened to her needs, he kissed her into safety.

To kiss a girl, one must leave expectations behind and find her mouth uncharted and wild. To kiss a girl one must find softness within oneself, then taking that softness to her, feed her the nectar of ecstasy—one drop at a time. To kiss a girl one must offer their darkness without apology and, joining hers, leave her lips bruised with passion.

 To kiss a girl one must know that surrender for her means something brave. It is filled with vulnerability.

To kiss a girl is to know where seasons go, where life ebbs and flows, where the birds migrate when the sun no longer warms the land.

To kiss a girl is to know all things.

© Monika Carless @ How to Kiss a Girl. | elephant journal

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Love is…

 

Love is not about falling.

It is about rising to the vibration of the heart, where the mind cannot enter, and we recognize each other as we were on the Other Side. Devoid of mind, ego, expectation and judgement, love flourishes and we progress on our soul purpose.

Love in its ecstatic form cannot tarnish.

We mix up practicalities of life with the purpose of love. Love is our core frequency, it is not what we receive from another, we already are that, love serves its purpose when it helps us to remember our true nature as light beings.

As soon as we see the love reflected in another as something they give us, and begin to expect (ego and mind engage) we lose that spark of connection that jolted us awake when we first met our mirror.

Exercise for love partners: Sit comfortably facing each other and gaze into each others eyes, sinking deep. Stay until what you know of them dissolves and you see only their beauty, their soul, the whole universe. Allow room for tears and feelings of expanding into the cosmos. Re-connect. Namaste.

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Tantric Nipple Play via Psalm Isadora.

Psalm Isadora is the top tantra expert in the world, and a highly sought-after sexuality, relationship, and trauma expert specializing in women’s health and empowerment as well as modern sexual education. For more of Psalm’s insights on the tantric approach to sex and relationships, explore her class, Tantra 101: Awaken Your Sexuality & Deepen Your Mind-Body-Soul Connection.

“Most women don’t know that their breasts are orgasmic. We’re so focused on having an orgasm through clitoral stimulation and/or vaginal penetration that we miss out on so many other great forms of stimulation. Our entire bodies are orgasmic.

Rutgers University researchers discovered through MRI brain scans that nipple stimulation activates the same nerve cortex as clitoral and genital stimulation. (Your brain actually doesn’t know the difference.)

So, in honor of National Masturbation Month, I want to introduce you to tantric breast massage. With this practice, you can have what I call a nipple-gasm through self-pleasure or with your partner.” © Psalm Isadora

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Dare to Awaken the Tempest of the Temptress. Via Krystal Rose.

 

“Dare to awaken the tempest of the temptress my dear sister. Let the milk and honey drip down your thighs and let yourself remember. Much like the sacred prostitute- the temptress and seductress has been tainted- demonized- and reduced to the vision of the home wrecker. I mourn for this sooo much- as the temptress and seductress within are our vitality as women. They are they milk and honey of this Earth- but we have forgotten. We have forgotten the temptation of nourishment of the breast- how seduced we were by our mother’s softness and sensuality. We deny the temptation that is exuded by our very blood- the scent that draws the men to their knees and whispers their true name when we ovulate. We no longer remember the strength of our shaking hips- more powerful than any promise of the tyrants- when we would quake like the Earth and the men would throw their swords on the ground and make love instead of war. We forget the women who saved their people by using her natural, divine, state of WOMAN to seduce the enemy away to his untimely death. We forget the seduction of The Earth herself- how sensual her waters are, how erotic her fires are- how erect her trees stand in their potency, the gasp of air upon orgasm. We have forgotten that sensuality is innocent and pure- as well as dark and deep! I attribute this to our privilege. In other lands, the temptress and seductress are still worshiped and honored in their truth. In some she is abhorred and raped still- and so she contains attributes of darkness and anger. However- she is pure. Just as the first goddess Lilith- the temptress remembers her truth and is unashamed of her power. She arrives at Eden knowing all of the wild creature’s names already- for she FEELS them. She is the wild- she is the one who cannot be tamed. She demands to be loved without being captured. When she is trapped- she seeks to destroy, to hurt- but this is not her true nature. Every day I hope and pray that each woman awakens the tempest of the temptress within her- that she ravishes the life she lives and kisses the dirtiest parts of her own soul!!! For loving the temptress, the very Shakti vitality that makes being a woman so, utterly worth it.” ~ @ Krystal Rose

Three Things to Know Before Seeking Polyamorous Love.

*Polyamory: The philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time.

Polyamory isn’t a fringe topic anymore.

And for the record, it’s not polygamy. But every conversation I’ve had recently about polyamory has had some mention of polygamy, even if it was just a passing joke to make the distinction.

The most frequent comment I hear from readers is that they never thought they would be “one of those people.”

Sally, an executive with a reputation to protect, confessed that she has never felt such freedom in her heart, since she has become romantically involved with two other people.

“You know, everyone assumes it’s about the sex, and of course we’re having it (in spades), but it’s really about finding expression as a human being. I mean, if I fall in love with two people, or three, why am I labeled a freak?”

Because, Sally, we have been programmed to believe that it’s impossible and wrong to intimately love more than one person. The reasons we believe this are complex and connected to the survival of the ego.

Three things to know about poly love:

1.~Poly love must be entered into with the same commitment to honesty, respect, and transparency as any other relationship.

Every relationship is subject to these cornerstones, and just because we swing from the chandelier with more than one lover, doesn’t mean that we can skip honoring our love in this way.

When it comes to dishonesty, don’t accept anything in poly love that you wouldn’t accept in another relationship.

Poly doesn’t mean “no rules” unless you’ve all agreed to it. Even with no rules, we have to observe the other people’s boundaries about having no rules.

If you’re entering into a new poly love and feel that all partners aren’t on the same page about certain requirements, have a discussion about it. If things don’t feel right, don’t do it. Make sure that you state your needs clearly. Often we don’t get what we want from a partner because we have simply failed to ask. If they’re angry because of your honesty, then this is a clue about the longevity of the relationship.

More here my loves, Three Things to Know before Seeking Polyamorous Love. | elephant journal

The Power of Vulnerability. Brene Brown’s Ted Talk May be the Breakthrough You’re Looking For.

 “A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” ~ Brené Brown.

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Vulnerability: the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.

Vulnerability is something that has become popular to talk about. We throw the word around the way we do consciousness, meditation, tantra—catch phrases loaded with meaning. Vulnerability is one of my favorite subjects, and I explore it often when writing about relationships.

But are we really familiar with what it means to be vulnerable? Are we practicing it, or even examining the places in our lives where vulnerability can find root and blossom?

Sometimes we dance around a philosophy or a subject and understand it on an intellectual level, but not actually live it. The problem with knowing it is that, sometimes, we are fooled into thinking we are embodying it. It can feel real, without being real.

I’ve been examining myself on this subject and resonate with Brene Brown’s story of an emotional breakdown—something many women and men can relate to after spending years protecting themselves from vulnerability. Brown’s belief is that we do this using three mechanisms: Perfectionism, numbing (anything to quiet our true feelings, as in addictions), and foreboding joy (the dread that kills happiness)

Sometime in our journey into adulthood, we are infected with an idea that we must create a certain life, follow certain rules, be a certain person, and ignoring the pleas of our soul to experience life authentically and through vulnerability, we soldier on pleasing others and living up to society’s expectations.

The rest here: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/02/the-power-of-vulnerability-brene-browns-ted-talk-may-be-the-breakthrough-youve-been-looking-for/

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