“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli
It’s not easy when a relationship that we are invested in threatens to bury our personal truths.
There may be many signals that we should walk away from someone we still love, but our justifications blind us.
Often, the truth of a situation is a catalyst for setting us free. But how can we be free when our finances, our children, our home, our families could be the cost of that freedom?
For weeks, months and years we hold on. Brave. Determined. Self-sacrificing.
But there is one signal that is stronger than all the rest: the moment when we realize that we no longer love the person that we are while loving that other person.
That moment may come as a shock because our souls are still screaming that if we love our partner, the relationship must be worth saving. And therein lies the rub: In having the presence of mind and heart to know that to love someone else, we must love ourselves first and foremost. If we no longer love who we are within that relationship, we neither honor ourselves or our partner by hanging on.
The symptoms of being at this kind of crossroads are many—here are some that you may recognize:
You can’t seem to get yourself out of bed in the morning, even though your children need attention.
Your appearance is of no consequence. You have other, more important things to do, like tending to the real things in life—so suddenly, you are not considering yourself “real” enough to tend to?
You’re not interested in eating well…anything will do. But you’ll make sure that everyone else gets fed properly while you snack on bread and any other easy carb that falls into your paws.
You no longer think about those dreams that used to keep you up all night. Everything has faded to a dull shade of grey.